LIVING A MARRIED LIFE!

Cohabiting has always been an issue in our society, highly discouraged but it is done.

The practice is known in Shona as Kuchaya Mapoto, an unofficial set up where a man and a woman stay together as husband and wife.

I’m not sure the difference with what other societies especially the white community call moving in.

A lady can move in with a man and stay together without being married.

Trust me us as Africans you will be crucified by our parents.

I don’t know how you view the idea of sleepovers, inviting your boyfriend or girlfriend to spend the night at your place and it might extend to two or three nights.

I think it is modern day cohabitation. I believe several people have done it and these days sleepovers are a common feature.

Cohabiting is discouraged and maybe these days it is no longer the same as yesteryear.

In society fingers will be pointed at you.

I believe our parents try to guard against this by denying children moving out of the family house before marriage.

They know you will accommodate someone. People are cohabiting out there and I believe it is a choice between two people.

No matter the consequences people still do it. One of the reasons why people discourage this is fear of heartbreaks.

Imagine living in with someone for two or more years then they ditch you for someone else.

I also think it may cloud the idea of marriage. It creates a false comfort of marriage but in reality there is no marriage.

You are already enjoying the fruits of marriage, why would you bother yourself with the idea of paying lobola?

On the other hand some may argue that cohabiting has it’s advantages.

It might be viewed as a way to judge if someone is worth being a lifetime partner.

If you discover that someone is not worth staying with then you quit.

You get to understand your partner before you tie the knot.

So for me it is a matter of choice between two people. They choose what they want.

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